You Will Fail Miserably Without This
Life becomes work, work becomes life. I know, I know. You love events and planning so much it is your life. It’s not work if you love it right? There must be a balance. There needs to be separation. If not I guarantee you will fail.
You have to ask yourself some important questions.
Where does your job and your life begin?
What’s at stake if you lose a balance?
What if all this hard work doesn’t go as planned?
Balancing work and life is a deep topic with many different perspectives. It’s so important we’ve assembled ten approaches to achieve a sound balance.
1. The Zen of Purpose
Ask yourself, “what’s the point in it all?” You need to find that answer. That seems obvious, maybe even melodramatic. But there is a point to it! It’s alright to sacrifice, but it must serve a purpose.
The point can’t be to work, or to just be productive. You can work anywhere and do that work until the end of time. There has to be a purpose to the work that exists outside of the work. Otherwise, you’re just a drone that works to reproduce itself.
Find a purpose for the work. Where do you want it to go? If you want to balance your life with your work, you need to know why you want to be doing that in the first place.
This is a difficult question. One of the big ones that has been asked and pondered since the beginning of time. And your answer is your own. Spend some time on this one and make sure the end result is worthy.
2. Boundaries: Rid Weakness
One of the toughest things in work-life balance is finding when it’s ok to stop work and live! Nobody wants to come home to family and friends and be a grumpy ass.
Make boundaries for yourself that you respect and will not cross. This is tough during events or the night club promoters out there.
Think about specifics; time, place, rules about your work and when it’s ok or necessary to move on. Make these commitments and meet them, or your goals and your relationships will suffer.
3. Don’t Do This Alone
Relationships are a core piece of balance. Know who is in your life and how you want them to figure into your journey.
The first step is to know who these people are. Choose wisely, think about it for a while. Seek win-wins. Who are the people that you want to take with you, and who are the people who want to come along?
Look for mutual commitment and respect. Make sure they know who you really are and understand what you want in life. Then confide in them. Trust them, and use their input to help you figure things out.
4. You Believe Every Lie
It’s easiest to lie to yourself and you believe everyone you tell. Expectations for meeting your goals have to be realistic. Even though your goals and desires may be unlimited, the time you have in a day is not.
If you want to end your day feeling like you’ve truly accomplished something, you need learn what is and is not realistic for you. Be realistic about the time it takes to do things, not optimistic.
If you’re always guessing you’ll do four hours of work in two, you’ll always leave disappointed and feeling a failure. Getting a realistic idea of how your work relates to the time that is available to do it will help you feel more satisfied in life.
5. Measure and Improve
Become aware of what you want to do vs. what you actually did, every week. This is an exercise that you should do for yourself at the end of every week. It will help you learn a little bit more and get a little bit closer to setting true and realistic expectations for yourself.
On Monday, write down what you want to get done throughout the week, and then on Sunday, assess and come to terms with the reality of what you actually did do. Don’t feel like a failure or a disappointment, just make note of what actually happened.
It’s an invaluable gift to be able to set realistic expectations for yourself. It will help you feel much better about yourself. It also makes it harder to believe those lies.
6. Exercise Regularly
The body and the mind are the same. Mistreat your body and you’re mistreating your mind. If you want to have work-life balance, you need to exercise. It’s that simple, there’s no way around it. Become the best version of yourself every day, and exercise to a schedule every week.
7. Time block Fun
Add some alternative constraints to your day. These are commitments that you make on occasion to limit the amount of work you do in a day.
Some examples include exercise, seeing a movie, take a Friday off, do an online course. Have fun, and use these exercises to force you to be intentional with the time you have left in a day.
It will also help you realize how much bullshit is in your mind about work. And how much you think it controls you when you’re really just hiding from life behind a desk.
8. Force Time Rituals
Take a page out of the project managers handbook. A to-do list is great. But we know we are the easiest to lie to. We know we are incredibly unrealistic with time. It always takes longer than originally planned.
Use a free tool such as TeamWork. Don’t get complex, but create a ritual to force that to-do list to a timeline. I often fool myself to believe the list for a week is manageable. Once put to a timeline, it’s easy to see the three weeks of work. Damn, caught in another lie.
9. The Secret of Big Thinkers
Becoming to habituated to a routine will put you in a rut. Get out of it, before it sends you into a downward spiral.
Few methods are as effective at getting you out of a routine as travel. So go out there and see the world for a whole. Take a day off, or a few months. The surprising truth is that getting out of a routine will help you establish better routines when you come back. The fresh perspective that travel gives you is invaluable.